Adults should never make negative comments to or around the child of a same-sex couple, other children, or anyone else.
Avoid questioning children about the relationships in their family. Whether Bobby’s “uncle” is a blood relative or a parent’s partner is really no one’s concern, and no child or adult should be put on the spot to satisfy idle curiosity.
Describing the relationships among same-sex parents and their children requires some thought, especially in introductions. Are the partners both “mommies” or“daddies”? Instead of assuming, ask the parents. Pay attention when you’re introduced to same-sex couples (with or without children) and follow their lead. If you really don’t know the family’s preferences, you’ll be okay saying “Bobby’s parents.”