Q. Most of my friends know me as Polly (short for my middle name, Pauline), and are unfamiliar with my first name, Elizabeth. I plan on using formal wedding invitations. Are parentheses around my nickname OK to use? I’m worried if I don’t use Polly people won’t know it’s me who is getting married.
A. We suggest you avoid using parentheses if you are using a formal wedding invitation. Your guests should be able to tell from your middle name that you are called Polly, short for Pauline. They should also recognize both your last name and your fiancé’s name. Your other option is to use a slightly less formal wedding invitation and use your nickname (Polly Lastname), and not worry about having your entire name on the invitation. The choice is completely up to you and what you feel most comfortable with.