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Traditional Expenses of the Groom and his Family
  • WP_traditionalexpenses_WOBride’s engagement and wedding rings 
  • Groom’s gift to his bride 
  • Groom’s gifts to his groom’s attendants 
  • Marriage license fee 
  • Officiant’s fee or donation 
  • All costs of the rehearsal dinner 
  • Expenses of the honeymoon 
  • Ties and gloves for groom’s attendants, if not part of their clothing rental package
  • Flowers:
    • Bride’s bouquet (only in those regions where it is a local custom for the groom to pay for it)
    • Boutonnieres for groom’s attendants
    • Bride’s going away corsage
    • Corsages for immediate family members, unless the bride has included them in her floral order
  • Lodging and transportation for:
    • Officiant, if from out of town and invited to officiate by the groom’s family
    • Groom’s immediate family
  • Lodging for:
    • Groom’s attendants
  • Transportation for:
    • Groom and best man to the ceremony and reception site
  • Bachelor dinner, if the groom wishes to host one

And nowadays…

up to 70 percent of weddings are paid for by the couple themselves, or by some combination which may include the couple, the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents. If the costs are being shared, communication is the key to keeping harmony. Any discussion about money should be both dignified and candid. And, if you are receiving financial help, be willing to compromise on some of your wedding wishes. Your wedding is a special day, but it is only one of many special days in your life together. Make a realistic budget and stick to it.