The Wedding Planner:
I'm having a destination wedding at a venue that employs an in-house planner, and she hasn't consulted me on some decisions. How should I handle this?
It's possible that she thinks she's helping by not bothering you. Decide what you want input on - for example, the look of your tables - and leave other tasks - perhaps, where to set up the band - up to her. Ask the planner to contact you before making final decisions on the items you care about most, and let her know that an e-mail is a welcome intrusion. (It also gives you a written record of decisions.) Be courteous and prompt in responding, to keep planning on track.