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Faraway Friends...To Invite or Not?
Should I send invitations to my friends who live far away, even if I'm certain they won't be able to come?

Passion-WOMany people prefer not to send invitations to friends who cannot possibly attend, believing that it looks as if they are inviting them in order to receive a gift. These friends should receive a wedding announcement, which carries no obligation. There is a flip side. Some friends who live far away might be hurt if you do not send invitations, even if your intent was to spare them from feeling obliged to send a gift. The ultimate answer is to invite truly good friends—even if they live far away.