Should I send invitations to my friends who live far away, even if I'm certain they won't be able to come?
Many people prefer not to send invitations to friends who cannot possibly attend, believing that it looks as if they are inviting them in order to receive a gift. These friends should receive a wedding announcement, which carries no obligation. There is a flip side. Some friends who live far away might be hurt if you do not send invitations, even if your intent was to spare them from feeling obliged to send a gift. The ultimate answer is to invite truly good friends—even if they live far away.