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Three Simultaneous Engagements

So, Who Gets to Go First?

Two close friends and I all got engaged at the same time. I'm worried we will argue over whose wedding should be when. How much deference do I give to them when deciding on a date?

W_threesimultaneous_WOHonestly, none. There's no need to let your friends dictate the details of your wedding. Still, if it turns out you all want to marry around the same time, it would be wise to discuss the impact on those involved. Will your guest lists overlap? Will some invitees feel overwhelmed by three showers and weddings almost at once? Will anybody be forced to choose which wedding to attend? If there are significant problems, you may decide it makes sense to space the celebrations. But once you've made a sincere effort to accommodate your friends' wishes, you needn't feel guilty about going ahead with your plans.